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[sauergeek]

I have recently discovered a question that I have been searching for the answer to for many years. The question is a simple one, so I suspect that (like most simple questions) it has an extremely complex answer. The question:

When is it appropriate to ask someone out on a date?

I can't claim any particular competence at dating. If anything, I would claim a particular incompetence at dating, as I have no idea what I'm doing. My dating history totals a single date, probably in late 1988. (And no, it was not with the person who is now my ex-wife.) It was moderately unsuccessful, in that no further dates ever happened.

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[jcgbigler.livejournal.com]

I wouldn't get hung up on whether it's a "date" or something else. To me, a date can be anything from "Hey, wanna go get a cup of coffee?" to "Let's go furniture shopping together."

Obviously, you'll need to have talked enough to decide you find each other interesting. Once you've reached that point, have an informal date, such as a cup of coffee or some other low-cost, low-effort get-together. If that goes well, progress to something equally low-effort, but longer duration.

When Nancy & I were first getting to know each other, the first thing I'd actually call a date was when we went to a coffee shop together and sat and talked for several hours. For our next date, she came over to my house and we watched a rented movie on my tiny 13" TV.

[sauergeek.livejournal.com]

I'm not sure I can think of a way that I could consider furniture shopping a date.