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[sauergeek]

I have recently discovered a question that I have been searching for the answer to for many years. The question is a simple one, so I suspect that (like most simple questions) it has an extremely complex answer. The question:

When is it appropriate to ask someone out on a date?

I can't claim any particular competence at dating. If anything, I would claim a particular incompetence at dating, as I have no idea what I'm doing. My dating history totals a single date, probably in late 1988. (And no, it was not with the person who is now my ex-wife.) It was moderately unsuccessful, in that no further dates ever happened.

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[dcltdw]

It was moderately unsuccessful, in that no further dates ever happened.

Actually, that makes it rather successful. You want first dates to very clearly end in mutual negative or mutual positive.

Hence what jcb said about a cup of coffee. "I just spent 15 minutes talking with you. That probably wasn't that bad. Would another 15 minutes be a total waste of those precious seconds of my life that I will never get back?"

So yeah. C.f. Say Anything. Is it a date, or a scam, or a... I dunno, what? Whatever.

[sauergeek.livejournal.com]

It wasn't mutual. I was interested in continuing; she was not.

And I do not know Say Anything -- is it a movie, a book, or something else entirely?

[lizzielizzie.livejournal.com]

!!

heathen!

Say Anything is a John Cusack movie.

[dcltdw]

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It's a guy flick. Y'know chick flicks? Yeah. This is a guy flick.

Yeah, the one-up-one-down vote is a bummer. I think I want to amend my original statement to "you want first dates to end in a very clear manner of up-or-down". It's just better if it's mutual, obviously.